You Know What They Say….Modest is Hottest


Modesty. Boy oh boy, I feel like that is a word that people know too little about these days. I look around and am dumbfounded by what I see girls wearing…guys too, but I’m focusing on the ladies in this post. Granted, this post is just my opinion. I understand that what I think or believe doesn’t automatically mean everyone has to agree!

My parents raised my sisters and I to be modest. They taught us the biblical reasons why we should and shouldn’t wear certain clothes and life was gravy. Then I hit my teen years and I remember wanting to dress a little edgier, show my curves off a little more(not that I had any), and trying to garner attention physically. It wasn’t until I completely stopped living for God and moved out that I started dressing like a little hooch. If I could go back and slap young Emily, I would. I remember wearing little dresses, with honking heels, tight shirts, short shorts…and all I can think about now is; whose husband was I around? I’m sure women wanted to punch me in the nose, trotting around as a little 20 year old, dressing to impress MEN, and not caring at all about who was around me to see it all. I didn’t walk out of the house thinking about all the men who were going to look at me, but I do remember wanting to grab Jake’s attention. Ughhhhghghghghghghghgghh, thank you Jesus for saving me!

I see young girls on Instagram, like 13 years old young, dressing SO provocatively. They show their bellies, wear tiny little spaghetti strap shirts that are super low cut, have on shorts that are basically jean undies(can we talk) and I just want to go wrap them up in a hug and tell them to STOP. That isn’t the way to get love and attention. Girls wear skin tight dresses, so tight that you can trace their moles, and flaunt their body all over social media, the town, the gym….all for an internal need to be desired and liked. They do Slut walks now(I’m not kidding, if you haven’t heard about it, look it up) where they promote girls wearing basically NOTHING, doing whatever they please, and not getting judged for it as women, or moms. Women are acting like it’s an honor to show their nipples, and that they should have the right to be topless because men can go without a shirt, using the hashtag #freethenipple. Ummmm, what about true love? What about righteousness? People are hurting and are looking for acceptance everywhere but they won’t look to Jesus Christ.

Jake and I looked through my old pictures the other night on a camera I recently found. I was mortified. When Crew gets older, I don’t ever want her to see those where her mom is dressed like a tart, feigning for attention and honestly…looking pretty stupid. Ewwww. Girls, when you get older and have kids, you are going to pray they don’t dress the way you did. So set the example now, show people around you that modest truly is hottest. You can wear something that goes from your neck to your toes, and still look way hotter than a girl who’s wearing a dress that’s 12 inches total, in length. I’m wearing leather pants, which can be thought of as a bit racy, and it’s really not at all with how I wore them. I never show cleavage…ever. I try to have a little bit of bag to my shirts so they aren’t suction cupped to my ladies.

Even at the pool I try to be modest. I will wear bikinis if it’s just girls, or me and Jake on a trip. But if I know there’s going to be men around….that’s a different story. I have a ton of one pieces I wear, I use cover-up’s. I honestly never want to be around a married man and cause him to lust. Not that I deem myself lust-worthy….but that is something I decided once I gave my life back to God. I was going to dress modestly. I wear tank tops under low cut shirts, even when they mess up the “cuteness” of an outfit. I don’t wear skirts or dresses that are high above my knee. I do wear shorts, and have tried to buy longer pairs, or boyfriend style ones. I just try to keep it looking ‘right’, but not sexy.

Now I’m not saying to go full nun on yourself. I am all about fashion, and love looking cute! I just make sure that I don’t go so far that I start compromising my standards. When I started this blog, I wanted to wear outfits that a parent wouldn’t mind if their child copied. I know some religions are very much about modesty….but they could care about any fashionable element. That is not myself. I just make sure what I’m doing, or how I’m dressing, lines up with the Bible.

When I look at the Kardashians, all I see are girls that only care about things external. They figured out that sex sells, and that is what they promote in almost every picture. Millions of girls try to be just like them, and it’s sad. One, you’re always going to compare yourself and feel unworthy to someone, and two….you’re heading straight for heartache. Everyone you see online is usually photo shopped or their picture is manipulated! You can’t compare yourself to others, because it’s an unrealistic comparison! I also hate when I see people post quotes about God and salvation and then the next picture is of them naked(almost). Errrhhhmmmm……if Jesus was there when you were snapping that pic….I think you would feel a lot of discomfort in them sleazy threads. 🙂

God loves you ladies… don’t need approval from men or the world. He is enough, and YOU are enough without having to lower your standards. YOU be the one that starts dressing modest, and showing everyone else what true fashion and really looking good is all about! The world is full of followers….make sure you’re someone worth following. Beyond clothes, makeup, how you do your hair….you need to make sure you’re right with God, and that’s how you’ll REALLY feel truly fulfilled…..and worth being followed. Hope you guys enjoyed this! Just something that’s really been on my heart for awhile! And if you are a lady who dresses a little on the saucy side, I do NOT want you to think I’m just internally judging you. Because that is not the case! This really stems back to myself and how I tried so hard to look as “hot” as possible and what the reasons were behind it. I linked the shirt, and other similar outfit options down below!

Crew’s jumper is from MBJ who is taking a short break, but will be back!

Distressed Stripe TeeFaux Leather Moto LeggingsFaux-Leather Zip Skinny Jeans, Black





  1. Debra Bates
    April 28, 2017 / 2:13 am

    That was awesome. I tell girls at work all the time I don’t want to see their cleaving. Save it for their husbands. They tell me their not married. Then save it for that special man you will marry some day. Love the testimony and your honesty.

    • Sodasippinsister
      May 11, 2017 / 7:11 pm

      Thanks Debra! I know, I’ve said it before….I only want Jake seeing my ladies;)

  2. LeAndra Byrd
    April 28, 2017 / 2:11 pm

    Thank you, Emily, I appreciate your honesty and I admire your willingness to make an example of yourself . We all have regrets, but God…
    Modesty, is that still in the dictionary? I remember my dad forbidding me to wears shorts , even at home… nothing above the knee. But he was protecting me… he knew how men think and did not want them lusting after me. I appreciate that now. And thank God that he loved me enough to protect me.

    • Sodasippinsister
      May 11, 2017 / 7:10 pm

      I know! And now parents are getting mad for schools having dress codes! Eeeeks, I’m worried for the days to come!!

  3. Lauren
    April 28, 2017 / 10:20 pm

    Truth! 🙌🏼💗 Love you, my sister!

    • Sodasippinsister
      May 11, 2017 / 7:09 pm

      Ahh, thanks Lauren!!

  4. Jill
    April 29, 2017 / 5:47 pm

    Amen sista…feel the same way. Had an older Christian mentor talk to me about this in college and ever since I have dressed a new way to not cause men to stumble…plus not gonna share my body with the nasty men who I DONT want to see it too. ;)..
    “Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come…

    Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”
    ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭31:25, 30

    And LOL @ ‘tracing their moles’ 😂

    • Sodasippinsister
      May 11, 2017 / 7:09 pm

      Love this, and love you! You’re such a Godly example and I love being around you and your sweet, genuine spirit!

  5. Gloria
    May 3, 2017 / 2:39 am

    I truly enjoy reading your post and aside the fact they are so relatable, you write sincerely from your heart; therfore, it has this uncanny ability to captivate your audience. I have a disclaimer in regards to this specific post, which is: I live and pioneer in South, FL. I can’t even begin to explain how modesty doesn’t exist here. Anyone will tell you every city has a spirit, but the ‘Sunshine State’ is blinding and it’s not the sun. 😎 The day to day violations are ineffable, x-rated and honestly sad, because as you mentioned, young girls and women expose themselves thinking it’s attractive, but have no idea of what they are really attracting. At times it’s hard to go on a date with my husband, because every where you turn there is cleaveage and butt cheeks literally hanging out. I truly feel there can be such an indirect pressure to look a certain way and people go to any extent to achieve it. From billboards sexy business women, South Beach, the warm weather, the nightlife, plastic surgery, celebrities, Botox and the Kardashians…image is everything here. I have noticed that in church most girls are very modest, but at times (especially summer) wardrobes shift, because compared to the rest of the half-naked city, we look like Mennonites 🤣 No matter what as Christians, we know when we are dressing on the edge. I’m baffled with no malice or critical eye, on how many women in prominent , Christian positions and roles are dressed no different from a girl at the club. Sadly the social media world has created a platform for everyone to have an opinion ; however, if they don’t agree I would be labeled as judgmental and hated for simply having my opinion on this topic. The great thing about being saved is that we care more about God’s opinion than everyone else’s. Thank you for starting this blog, I think you will create an amazing platform, so as Christians we can help each other and be the change we want to see in this world. I think modesty is appealing, attractive, classy and I absolutely love the way you dress!!! 👗💄💍👠 Salvation brings dignity and I am so grateful I can feel secure and sexy without having to dress less , because with God’s love and a great husband …I’m always covered. 😉😆

    • Sodasippinsister
      May 11, 2017 / 7:08 pm

      Thank you so much for your sweet compliment! I feel like I’m a terrible writer and people are probably rolling their eyes the whole time they read, so thank you!! And I can’t imagine the outfits there….or lack there-of! You need blinders for all the boys in church;) I know, I try to write my posts in a way that isn’t coming across judgmental, seeing as I was once the girl I’m writing about. Just keeping it from the heart! Thank you again, and thank you for reading and commenting!

  6. Naomi rice
    December 14, 2017 / 5:24 pm

    Just found this post and loved it!! Thanks for your honesty and willingness to talk about this subject!!

    • Sodasippinsister
      December 15, 2017 / 1:10 am

      Thank you so much!! Crazy how perspective changes through time(and with salvation!)

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